Spominki na ljubezen daleč stran: vsakdanji predmeti z velikim pomenom




Ključne besede:

čustveni predmeti, zveze na daljavo, ljubezen, intimnost, abstraktna prisotnost


Avtorica v članku raziskuje vlogo vsakdanjih predmetov v zvezah na daljavo, ki povezujejo dva geografsko oddaljena partnerja. Študija se osredotoča na zveze na daljavo v Evropi in temelji na intervjujih z ljudmi v tovrstnih odnosih. Avtorica obravnava eno izmed praks ustvarjanja partnerjeve abstraktne prisotnosti, imenovano prepoznavanje sentimentalne vrednosti predmetov. Kot del razvijanja in ohranjanja intimnosti v odnosu se predstavljanje partnerjeve prisotnosti krepi s čustvenimi predmeti. Članek prispeva k presečišču materialne kulture in študij mobilnosti z raziskovanjem vloge predmetov pri čustvenem povezovanju geografsko oddaljenih partnerjev.


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Biografija avtorja

Maja Gostič

MSc in psychology; ZRC SAZU, Slovenian Migration Institute; University of Ljubljana, Faculty of Arts, Department of Psychology;


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Gostič, M. (2023). Spominki na ljubezen daleč stran: vsakdanji predmeti z velikim pomenom. Dve Domovini, 2023(57). https://doi.org/10.3986/dd.2023.1.04 (Original work published 23. februar 2023)