Pokojni starš v morečih sanjah: soočanje s težavami v pripovedih o žalovanju
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https://doi.org/10.3986/SMS20262907Ključne besede:
smrt, žalovalne pripovedi, žalovalne more, trajajoče vezi, družinski odnosiPovzetek
Članek analizira tri pripovedi o žalovanju, v katerih odrasle hčere opisujejo moreče posmrtne sanje z umrlim staršem. Pripovedi so obravnavane z narativno analizo v dialogu s psihološkimi pristopi k sanjam v času žalovanja in k nadaljevanju vezi s pokojnikom. V psihologiji se žalovalne more običajno razumejo kot znak težav pri sprejemanju izgube. Vendar pa se v kontekstu žalovalnih pripovedi, ki prikazujejo življenje s pokojnikom, te more ne kažejo kot način predelovanja smrti, temveč odražajo težave v odnosu med hčerjo in staršem. Ker izražajo nelagodje zaradi vedenja starša, so more povezane s poskusom, da bi hči spremenila ali prekinila vpliv pokojnega starša na svoje življenje.
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